Streetlife

This isn't going to help but her aggravation is so low-level and under-the-counter that no-one in officialdom is going to be able to help you.  I can see only two ways of dealing with it: either banish it totally from your mind and just go about your business and ignore the harassments as just being a small price to pay for city living or you have to approach her formally for you and your husband to have a chat and try and sort things out.

Anand, what you are getting is harsement. What a cop out by the police.

I'd like to invite members to a community coffee morning I am hosting on Friday 25th May from 10am to 1pm.

Thank you very much for lettijng me know about the event.  I am gutted now because I have to go to work tomorrow and would have love to have attended this as I am desperate for some advice.  Please let me know when you are arranging another event as I will most definitely take time off work to come. 

By the way does anyone know where the nearest CAB office is located - I thought it was in Balham - not sure

http://www.wandsworthcabx.org.uk/

Try the above link for Wandsworth Citizens Advice Bureau.  Good luck Anand, I know what it can be like.

I would confront her or as I had to do the other day put a note on her windscreen asking in a nice way not to park so close to your car. Take a picture of it & whenever she speaks to you or your husband try recording the conversations. If you feel you are being harassed evidence will help you but every time she does something call the police on 101, ask them why they won't do anything. I really hope it gets sorted out, what a horrible woman. Good Luck! 

I think neighbour from hell is a bit strong just for an issue over parking. Is she dealing drugs from her property, having late night party's, people comming & going at all hours? Are you saying that if you move your car forwards she then comes out & moves towards your car again? As it is on my road sometimes it's hard to find a space & if someone has parked outside my house I admit I do sometimes  park close to them because I also have a tree & a post outside that I hav to level my car up so that when me or my children get out of the car we don't bang the doors or walk in all the dog mess that surrounds the tree because of irresponsible dog owners (that's another issue) could this be the case outside your house? You also don't mention if she has children that she needs to get out of her car. Have you spoken to other neighbours on your street to see if they have a problem with her & have you tried speaking to her direct about the parking issue. With neighbours I have had to deal with in the past, an issue over parking maybe annoying but I wouldn't say it's a neighbour from hell. Let's just hope you can get it sorted & everyone can be happy.

Whilst I feel sorry for you suffering this silly behaviour, I struggle to see what you expect the Police to do. there is no crime as far as I can see.

andrew, Is harassment not a type of crime.. i bet you if the same thing was happy to a celebrity or the royal family.. then the police would take action or do something about it.. .

You could approach Wandsworth Mediation Service for help in resolving this neighbourhood dispute.

I would think if the police thought it was a serious matter then they would get involved but maybe there are more important crimes to deal with then someone parking a bit too close to someone's car. Have the police even spoken to the neighbour about it just too calm the situation before it escalates?

This was not my event I copied and pasted from Sadiq Khan's website. I had a problem neighbour and I tried mediation but she would not go to it so there was no success there

Cookie, it is serious that Anand has to park the car further afield to get away from the idiot. Yes police always have more important crimes espeically if theres one person involved and 6 police officers need to be at the scene.

I don't think you have the right to call the other person an idiot when none of us know the full extent of the problem & the fact that Anand hasn't answered the questions that I raised in a previous comment. We don't know both sides of the story & it's a bit unfair to label the other person when they cannot defend themselves. My point was if the police thought it was a case of harrassment & the neighbour was being a problem then surely they would have spoken to her, as I know from previous experience & the experience of other neighbours who have had problems. The fact that the police might not have even spoken to her shows that there might not be a case to answer.

cookie point taken about not knowing two sides of the stories.. I hope anand is telling the correct version of the story and not what she wants us to know.

For gooness sake!!  If road tax is paid, any person can park wherever they wish on any road, barring yellow lines of course.  With the amount of cars now on the roads, it's virtually impossible to park right outside your own front door!!  Stop being so petty, live and let live!  I would not class this person as a neighbour from hell, try living next door to people who play loud music half the night!!

Yes, what about the other persons story!!   This all sounds a bit one sided to me!!

Jean have you actually read Anand's original message?  If someone is deliberately and maliciously organising their friends and relatives to come and block a neighbour's car in so it can't be moved then that is a hundred times worse than a bit of loud music.

The difference is the intent: someone being inconsiderate with loud noise is very different from someone deliberately setting out to inconvenience a neighbour!

And of course we only have one side of the story - by definition given the nature of the dispute it's hardly likely that both parties would come on here and give their position.

However I think we have to give anand the benefit of the doubt that she has a genuine issue and try to give her advice as to how to resolve it.

Talking to the CAB sounds like a good idea to me.  They will be able to give you the same information that a lawyer would and will do it for free.

Thankyou Shahid. I'm not sticking up for the neighbour it's just I know what it's like to live with bad neighbours & a parking issue seems quite trivial to what other people go through & until both sides get heard then we can't judge. Jean I totally agree with you even though road tax is nearly £200 & a permit £120 it doesn't give you a private parking space outside your home as sometimes I had to park 2 or 3 streets away from my house (when I lived on a different street) at busy times & had a babe in arms & shopping to carry. Where I live now is busy but not as busy as previous street & in the days where alot of houses are converted into 4-6+ flats & if even half of them tenants own cars then there is alot of people having problems with parking or the smaller houses that the tenants share the front gate who has the right to park outside it? Shame people just can't get on & help each other out & as the saying goes you can't please all of the people all of the time.

Matthew how do we know that she is arranging for friends/family to deliberately park outside is she not entitled to visitors? What happens when Anand has visitors does she make them park away from her house? If she was totally blocked in then she should then call the police, community support or council who would then make the other person move which I then think they would take as a serious matter & harrassment.

I too have an unfriendly neighbour so can fully sympathize with you. All I can say is, like a boil, the more you "prod" it the worse it will get.

So I decided that rather than keep complaining about her behaviour and getting nowhere, a change of tack was required.

Previously, whenever she saw me, I would get ignored. even to the point of walking past me whilst looking at the floor. So now I go out of my way to be overly friendly when I see her. The first time, during another looking at the pavement routine, a very loud bright and cheery "GOOD MORNING!" nearly made her fall,over her dog leads.

All I got/get in reply is a mumble, but a little devil inside of my smiles sweetly knowing that she is seething at me.....

I like that approach...

http://www.wandsworthmediation.co.uk/ - Mediation is a very effective method for settling neighbourhood disputes that can feel intractable. I don't know if this service is any good but may be worth a go. Good luck.

Nice one Tony G!!