Streetlife

Rik R

Annoyance with forum Users

I have used this forum for a little while now, I don't participate very often but read the posts and use it to find out whats going on locally, etc.

Whats really starting to frustrate me is it's very quickly turning into a moaning site,  I use a post about street drinking as an example, there are many more but this is the last one I read, now for me Street drinking is a big problem around the Broadway Tube area so it will be a good thing, I am quite shocked that people were moaning about it saying things like some people spoil it for everyone else, etc.

I have never seen anyone one of my neighbors stand on the street and drink a can of lager or bottle of wine its ridiculous to moan on like its going to effect you personally all it will hopefully do is deter the groups of drunks who gather outside HSBC by the cash points intimidating people, stop the drunks that sit outside sainsbury's who people cross the road to avoid, the groups of males that gather at the end of our streets who people have to try and avoid how can it be a bad thing?

I just think people just need to be a bit more positive and stop moaning on and on about trivial matters and use the forum for what its intended information and discussion rather than a bitch fest!!

Comments

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Simon F
Er! Isn't that a moan Rik?
Leanne U
well my partner who works a six day weak a a builder occasionally likes to have a can on his walk home from the bus stop, he does not hang around on street corners acting like a drunken foul mouthed wally, but be cause of the few scumbags who do, hard working blokes like him can't do it anymore. Get my point!! I agree that the groups who hang around on the benches outside tk maxx and around the many bookmakers drinking, do not help the image of tooting, and waste the police and ambulance alot of time and money, perhaps the bookies should take some responsibility with these layabouts if they not betting they shouldn't be there.
Leanne U
moan moan moan, at least the post i put about the drinking openend a discussion and i wanted to hear what people thought about it, thats what i thought street life was about discussing issues that effect the area we live in, perhaps if these post annoy you the easy thing to do would be not to comment on them.
andrew h
I agree with both Rik and Leanna.
There certainly are a lot of moaners on here but perhaps that is a function of who looks at the site, I am always frustrated by those that see things from the point of view of themselves and their families only. And those who moan and criticise without proposing any alternative or solution are doubly frustrating.
I felt sorry for guys like Leanne's partner when they banned drink on buses and underground. The guy heading home early evening with a cold can was not the problem.
Rik R
I get that sometimes moaning is needed and its got to be balanced so some moaning but it just seems to be constant moaning about everything, Leanne U maybe the drinking comment wasn't the best example and now I have hurd why the comment is made was probably justified but it was the freshest in my mind when typing.

Its just all the negativity is a bit of a downer I suppose, like the Olympic thread everyone calling Wandsworth Council all the names under the sun even though they had explained so many times why they had the system for tickets then the same people saying the council are fantastic when they got tickets cause a second chance.
I suppose its when people make a tiny trivial thing into such a big issue.

 And Simon S its a little bit of a moan. LOL

Martin
there are lots of things going on in the community. Tootopia for example this weekend. Tooting Arts Club has a good record of holding interesting theatre and art, and there are things like the Foodival organised by the Transition Town Tooting group. I follow Streetlife to learn more about things like this, granted, there could be some more advertisement for things going on about. Streetlife isa great forum for sharing the gems around Tooting and I agree with you that it should be a positive thing.
Julie G
I think you all need to go, sit on the wall, get some wine, have a whine and chat with your neighbours.... it is  the best way to really have a good moan.... community style!

Enjoy the sun and cheer up!

:)
Cure By Nature
It is easy to accuse people who you disagree with of moaning; there is on Streetlife a great diversity of points of view and opinions; if you do not like the fact that people may have a somewhat different perception of reality than your own, don't bother reading the threads
I'm with Cure By Nature
andrew h
That's not it Cure by nature - I both expect and  welcome opposing views and try to consider and understand them. I might learn something....and that is good. 
What I find difficult to understand is if these views are not backed by arguement nor experience.
Tzctstre
Moaning about .... moaning.....
andrew h
No no no - you are missing the point ......there is a difference between a reasoned arguement and a moan.
I believe this lies in the back up of what one writes.
Cure By Nature
I disagree,: this is a forum, not an exercise in critical thinking, so sometimes people will make statements of fact, express opinions and point of views,  sometime they will simply say how they feel about something; all equally valid responses.
I'm with Cure By Nature
Rik R
Julie G the last time I said good morning to my neighbour he was that shocked that someone spoke to him he nearly fell over the wall ;) LOL
James L
Welcome to the Internet.

As people are just people, and you can't really tell them how to behave, or what they should/shouldn't write in the box, a good way to look at this issue is to let the people who run the site know features that would help you tailor the streetlife experience to your liking.

For example:

- you could ask for a friend system - to mainly see posts from people who you mark as your friends, 
- you could ask to be able to 'hide' people who write content that you're not interested in
- you could ask for a category system, and everyone could categorise a conversation such as 'help needed', 'wanted/for sale', 'local issue discussion', etc. Then you could choose not to read posts in categories you weren't interested in, such as the discussion ones.

StreetLife seem to have made this really easy - you just click the Support button in the bottom right and a form pops up for you to fill in your feedback. They're a pretty young company I think, so I'd imagine they read the stuff you enter.

The other thing you can do on a public forum is start lots of threads about things you like and are interested in. Leading by positive example will increase the quantity and quality of content you like.
Christopherinactive
The general public are more than welcome to drink one of our drinks on the street, just remember to bin them :-)

As a company we have not found Streetlife to be 'moany'. I think that a whole range of views must be respected, and moderators use their discretion when reviewing conversations.

Perhaps it was an off-day, let's give StreetLife the benefit of the doubt, we've read some lovely comments here too - so these shouldnt be drowned out!

AA x
MS
I dont think streetlife is full of moaning, there's a lot of positive and helpful exchanges of information as well as debate about local issues. The latter is interesting up to a point but tends to be dominated by the "usual suspects" but at least they seem to care about what goes on and I expect they are active in the community offline as well. It's a free country and you don't have to read it if you don't want to.
ianfreeman
I wish I could hide messages from people who are totally unable to post any comment at all without plugging the services of their particular company!
Sylvia
This discussion is exactly what Streetlife is for. Express any opinion but you will have contrary opinions and those who express themselves in a way which attacks personally. I have to say that I dont understand that when the a ruling is made to try and help the community get rid of anti-social behaviour - such as beligerent drunks on the street- we do have people saying it is an infringement of their personal rights and liberties. Unless that person is a beligerent drunk then the ruling can only be a positive thing for them. That is where i agree with Rik in "moaning" for the sake of it -I dont see the need for it - but again those people are expressing an opinion where I just dont understand their logic on it.
Matthew G
Couldn't agree more ianfreeman!

I think I chose the option to hide conversations started by Aqua Amore a long time ago but I don't think there's a way to hide comments from a particular user.  I'll raise a support request!
andrew h
thank you for reminding me about the hide comment  - I'm happy to hide Aqua Amore for evermore.

ianfreeman
Support request raised!
Rosanna F
It is quite amusing that Rik R. debut in this forum is to moan about people moaning.This forum is run well and fairly, it is a great source of information and people are very helpful. A good forum,and with very little censorship, is a reflection of our society and therefore very useful even when disagreeing with some posts. The use of the word moaning when people express dissatisfaction with a particular situation is rather rude and shortsighted.
andrew h
I looked it up in my dictionary - moan = grumble or complaint.

To me, expressing dissatisfaction has a more positive slant to it (or at least should do) and even may be helped and re-inforced by some explanation of why one is dissatified or knows better.
Rik R
There is a difference between moaning and pointing out a fact!! I couldn't care less if no one listens and they carry on with their everything is the end of the world attitude I was just pointing out that it's not the sole purpose of the forum, I use it for local information which is what it is designed for discuss local info.

However if every-time you visit the forum people are just winging on about how someone popped a football and that now they did the world will come to an end and the four horseman of the Apocalypse are now going to come and unleash the plagues on us you kinda just stop visiting, I have seen it happen to another local forum.

So no I am not moaning and before anyone starts the football popping is an example so don't start telling me there is not thread about it, I am purely pointing out that it might be nice to be a little more positive rather than constantly moaning.

And Rosanna F. its not my Debut on the forum its the first post that has drawn any attention! lol

And Aqua Amore please we are not interested in ur spamming and very poor plug of your product!
Christopherinactive
Hi Rik,

Thanks for your feedback, unmerited as it was.

We have not spammed this forum, and gave our feedback on a topic that aggrieved you. If mentioning drinks was a way of lightening the tone and being humour, then it has been misinterpreted.

In our use and reading of posts from Streetlife, we have not really seen many moany posts, but feel that people are well within their rights to express their views - if they were not, your post would suffer the same image. 

Please do not use StreetLife to post attacks on others, because that is the kind of thing that makes forums unappealing to users.

Thank you

AA

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