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Why don't people help their neighbours anymore

Some of the changes start off with us (sometimes we have to become the solution).  A lot of people are shy, or may feel insecure, and we need to start befriending people.  You can start off by saying hello to your neighbours.  Take time to show a real interest in people.
Occasionally you might invite your neighbours round.
I regularly talk to my neighbours, and often offer to help them with practical issues around the house.
Often I might spend 10 minutes talking to my neighbours outside my flat, taking time to see how they are, and offering to help them.
By spending quality time with our neighbours, we make them feel special, and they become our friends.
A lot of people have been hurt by others, through the things which have been said.
Having been through a lot of suffering myself, I try to see things from both sides, and understand the feelings of others.
When there is a problem, I look at myself before judging others, as we all have our off days.
Lots of people have lost their confidence, and we can help repair the damage, as we look for opportunities to recognise their good points, always giving praise where it's due (it does not cost you anything, but it's a real blessing to the person receiving the praise and a real encouragement to excel in that area).

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Gillian B
So agree. I like to get on with people especially those close to you.
Doonebabe
Very true Peter.
There are alot of lonely people out there who society seem to forget. A hello, how are or an offer of help to them would not go amiss & would mean so much to them to think someone is caring about them. People these days are so wrapped up in themselves which I find rather selfish. If only people would give up a little time each day just to pop in & see their neighbour. We always check on our neighbour who is a lovely man who is 94 & a widower. We have him in for tea & vice versa. He is lucky that he is very mobile whereas as others unfortunately are not so lucky & he still drives his car so has kept his independence so please Love & Care for Our Neighbours, if we All did this, what a better world it would be....
Peter D
So often our neighbours recognise problems, but expect somebody else to fix it, when actually, they can do something about it.  If I see a problem, I will usually do something about it, or find somebody who can.  As a community, we can look out for each other, and protect one another, because you never know when you are going to need help, and you will be glad that somebody came to you in your hour of need.
Tracey S
I would be willing to help anyone in need.  My neighbours tend to be druggies so tbh I avoid them.  I am not the only one in this situation so do forgive us for not leaping in and helping out. 

Times have changed and we are not living in the 70's anymore where you went to work and left the doors open.

I am only being honest here so don't give me a hard time and I am not the only one.  Times have changed, that is all.
Doonebabe
Yes, I appreciate times have changed & I know we are not living in the 70s I am well aware of that..... however, it is a bad thing if you cannot help your neighbours or someone you know who may live alone & who is lonely.... tbh I have no time whatsoever for druggies..... this is self inflicted & ur right to avoid them, they are just time wasters in my personal view. Just remember we All have to get old one-day!!
Denis O
Dark Side of the Moon - Pink  Floyd

Roger Waters said that when he wrote it, to him, “quiet desperation” seemed to best sum up the English character.

Generally true.
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Tom J
If you are lonely or want to widen your circle of friends you can meet new people and develop new or existing interests through the University of the Third Age (U3A).  Membership cost £15 for the year.  There are now well over 300 members of the newly formed Exmouth and District U3A with 49 interest groups. Their next monthly meeting is at Exmouth Pavilion from 10 to 12 including a talk is on Shelterbox, a charity that provides a survival kit to help the victims of international disasters. Non-members can attend for a fee of £2.

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